What should I do?

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My ex called me last night. I did not know if I should even talk to her but she said she really needed to talk to me. So I did. She wanted me to know how my Son has changed since I have not been able to see more and she wanted to change it. I was told that I need to be in his life more. True, I told her, but she has all the power to make these changes not me. She could not talk more on the phone she asked if we could meet and talk. I was too afraid she would set me up because I am still not supposed to talk to her. She called again today to ask again to meet and talk. I couldn’t just ignore her pleas to talk. I want to work things out so I agreed to meet and talk.
She wants to allow me to pick him up Friday nights and take him to school on Monday morning. I also told her about the trouble I am having finding a place to let me move in with my limited income. I could buy a brand new trailer, I was approved to buy but the parks won’t let me move there because the lot rent would be more than 30% of my total income. She brought up the idea of moving into her apt because she moved into her B.F. Marks apt. No one is in her old apt and it is paid for until July. She pre paid for a year with the money (18,000+) I gave her for back support. I will have to pay her only $500 instead of $800 per month. That would be cool but 500 is still a lot every month plus the other bill so I suggested paying Half of the 500 a month x 7 months = 3500. I agreed to pay her 1750 (Half) up front and the other half @ 250 a month. That way I am not cutting myself short during the month. Is this something I should trust her on?? Is this a good idea???
I told her that she can call my atty and stop all our Court issues and he might even draw up an agreement for the apt too. She forgets how much of tis all is in her control. She could make all of our lives better if she really wanted too. She says she does but she also said she " til death do us part" so I cant’ truly trust her. I have to give her a chance to prove she is a changed person like she claims. I just hope my Son and I don’t get burned again.
We had Court tomorrow but my atty has an all day trial and had the trial rescheduled until March 06. I do not like to wait until then to ask for more time so I am hoping my Ex can be trusted.
I’ll keep my fingers crossed…tom g

12 Replies to “What should I do?”

  1. Tom,I was praying and concentrating really hard on you and Logan maybe it is working. I will do more of it tonight, when it is quiet and I can really concentrate. I will keep my fingers crossed tooyour friendDominique

  2. Hey there. My two cents is to trust her, and go into it with an open mind, but also to GET IT IN WRITING. Even if you two just hand write it out and both sign and date it. It is as much for her protection as yours. I mean you could stop paying her and claim she said you could and then she wouldn’t have a leg to stand on in the court room.Definately get it in writing sweetie. For all 3 of your sakes.And be sure to talk about what would happen if things don’t work out with her new boyfriend and she wants to move back in to the apartment. Chances are that would be an "all of a sudden" type situation and you could end up with no place to go in the blink of an eye.Now with all of that cautionary stuff out of the way… I am happy to hear that you are going to see your son more. Oh yeah, you may want to add that to the "in writing" part. AGain for her protection as well as yours. All agreement changes need to be documented so that when you go to court again you will both have the facts readily available. Best of luck to you all! Keep us posted.

  3. Tom, the only advice I could give you is get everything in writing. I am saying this from experience. Take nothing for granted and keep your guard up.I am glad that you are getting to spend more time with your son. That is a great thing!

  4. Tom, It has been a while since I read any of your blogs but I will pray for you and Logan. Please go cautiously as and get as much in writting before making a move. You and Logan do not need to be burned any more.A friend who can relate.Richard

  5. My best thoughts to you, ma friend!I hope all that happens, happens to your best.HAPPY HUG DAY!I’M SENDING YOU MY BRAZILLIAN TROPICAL HUGS!My message to you, today…☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★When you run so fast to get somewhereYou miss half the fun of getting there.When you worry and hurry through your day,It is like an unopened gift….Thrown away.Life is not a race.Do take it slowerHear the musicBefore the song is over.☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★Have a fantastic day, every day!Live the present you were given.Heart KissesK

  6. I really hope this ia a turing point for you and your son…I’m praying!!!But trust your gutt!!!You can’t be to careful!!! I think you already know that!Hugs Are warmHugs are nice Hugs are waysTo break the iceIf you send me a hugYou won’t regretI’ll hug you backSo you can’t forget! {{{HUGS}}}~♥~Michele~♥~

  7. Thank you for your encouragement! Yes, I have red hair…and green eyes, my genes are so recessive it’s not even funny. Good luck with your ex. I agree with JenMahan too. She’s always right, pisses me off.Jolie

  8. Do what you feel is the best Tom – but be careful and make sure you have witnesses or that she puts things in writing. Deb

  9. Tom, I’m sorry I haven’t been here in a while…But I’m SURE GLAD I came by now!! I’m so very happy for you…AND Logan too!! Have a WONDERFUL visit with him!Merry Christmas!!! And I KNOW you’ll have a HAPPY New Year!!Take care, Carrie

  10. A Big Salute for Being a Dad…
    Been there and done that…Just keep doing what is right for your son.

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