When I moved out of my old apt I knid of knew I was taking a chance. Yesterday My ex came over to use the phone to call her b.f. She has a no contact order not to call or be around him. He was letting her stay there because he knew she had no place to go so more for the kids he agreed to let her come back there. Some thing happened and she was thrown out or left on her own but she showed up at my door around 2:00am to "talk" about our Son. When she got here she kept calling her b.f.’s phone number numerous times. I warned her that if they were fighting again the last thing she should be doing is calling his phone. If he was going to answer her calls he would have on the 5 or 6th time she called without an answer. She did not listen to my advice not to push her luck. As usual she did what she wanted and left to go over there. About 10 minutes after she left a cop called me to ask why I was calling her b.f.’s number. I told the cop that I did not. I knew he was tiring to get me to say she was here and called. But this put me in a odd position, I knew they knew and I told them she was here and made a call but I did not see or hear who she called. Shortly after my ex called again to ask if her b.f. called me. I told her the cops were looking for her and the best thing to do was to turn herself in to them she reluctantly agreed and said she would. 30 minutes later the cops were at my door looking for her, I let them in and they looked around for her and left. The next call shortly after was from my EX asking if I would help her with bail. I told that they might not give it because she was out on bail for the same incident and bail bondsman do not like to do bail in this situation. I told her to wait a day or two for a bail reduction hearing for a lower or no bail offer. She sounded scared as hell and that was good for her.
She needs to pay for her mistakes too. I have paid for mine everyone else has to but not her. To my shock they did not give her any bail she just signed for herself. But now there is no way she is allowed to go to her b.f.’s apt so she has no place to live!!! The odd part is that the apt I live in now is in her name. She moved out and left it empty and paid for until the end of July. She wants to move back in here with her two sons(1 mine). I am not surprised that once again she has gotten me into a jam because she has a no contact thing against me too and I do not want her to get me into trouble again. I am not allowed to be hear or around her but since she moved out and the utilities are in my name It is right fully mine not hers. If she was to get mad at me for something she could call the cops and have me put out and arrested for violating our no contact thing. I just do not know what to do!! I do not want my Son’s mom to be out on the street even though she deserves far worse It is hard for me to make her suffer.If I let her live here (us all together) I do not trust her "word" to not cause me trouble. What to do??
Around 7:30pm another knock at the door. This time it was 1 cop and a woman from Child welfare, some one called them on his mom to make sure our Son is being treated well. I had no problem with them maybe they will help find out why he is troubled in school. They talked to him alone for about 45 minuted. Then me for the same amount of time. By then my ex came home so they got to talk to her too. They stayed until around 10:30pm. They looked all over my apt for running water food and stuff like that. I knew that I had nothing to worry about but I would of like to of heard what they were asking my Son but they made me leave the room. When they left I got the impression that they were satisfied that all was fine. My ex may be a bit more worried but not me. I know that I could make it even If I had to raise my Son alone. I do not need her to do that. My Son might need his mom though. and thats the hard thing. I would hate myself if I caused her to have to stay away from her/our Son. I am mad at myself for still feeling sorry for her. I was raised to be forgiving and all but she has a track record of not being honest and I am not afraid to say I am afraid. I have much to decide on in the coming days. My choices are staying here with her and maybe get into trouble, move out and live in the street or force my sons mom to live there. I may have some very cold nights ahead of me because my old apt is rented out to some one else now.
Well what a mess I have now! It will all work out some how I just I wish I could see how… tom g