My ex never had to take anger management. She got the court to order me to before and now she is gong to. This is a surprise to me for her to voluntarily go on her own. Maybe she might be discovering how destructive she has been. I hope she sees it through, she can use the help with her anger.
I know every one thinks I am crazy for taking a chance with her around but I have few choices now. I have no place to go now either. I think of it this way, I now get to see my Son EVERY day. I can be there to watch over him and protect him now if any abuse was going on BEHIND my back. My son will be in LESS danger with his DAD around to keep an eye on him. Every day I live here makes it harder for my ex to say I have no rights to be here. The cops who were and the worker all heard her say she wanted to drop the no contact thing. They also told me that most likely with her recent activities she would be the one the cops would put out on the streets. I am not a vengeful person, I know I could probably win full custody, & get her out of the picture but just because I could doesn’t make it right. I KNOW how it feels to have a child kept away. I would not do that to my enemies including my ex. I would rather help her to be a better mom that make her a bad one. My Son would never understand why I would keep her away.
If I was to leave she would find some new guy to move in. That would be worse and more dangerous for My Son. He know me and know I love him more that the "others". As for taking him away from his mom, I can only say that If I see with my own eyes anything that might put my Son in danger I will take actions but at least I will be around to see it in the first place. I hear things but can find no evidence and neither did the worker.
I know the most likely reason for Logan’s trouble in school is the changes in his home life before.The worker agreed with my suspicions. I can only try to help him find a way to direct that negative energy in a more positive way. He got into trouble again today and I went to pick him up today. His teacher came out with him. He would not listen to get his work done and was disruptive. I had to be the one to yell a bit this time. I have never had to do that before with him. On the way home I had a long talk to him about how I hate to yell at him and his punishment was to do what he hated to do …write. I told him he was going to write "I will not be bad in school". I asked how many times he thought would be a lot, he said 50x..I said not that many …how about 45 and every time your bad in school you will write it again +10. If that does not work I reminded him that I was home all day long just looking for something to do so I will come to his school every day and sit in the hall outside his classes and I he is bad I will come in and "remind" him to be good not to mention embarrass him in front of all his friends. He knows I can and will do it. He wrote his punishment and did his math homework while I made his supper. Then his mom came home and I thought she was going to do her own yelling thing but to my surprise she just let it go at what I gave him to do for being bad. He does not writ as neat as he should so I made him redo the ones that were too messy about 4. After supper he and his mom went to the mall for something to do. I stayed home because my back is "barking".
I hope people will understand my "whys"… tom g