Today I got a call from my ex-wife. She said she two thing to talk about. First she wanted to drop everything in court, visitation, support and custody. She even said I could get him for weekends at my place. I thought she got hit in the head or something until I remembered she had TWO thing to talk about. I then realized that there must be a catch some were.
I was right! She then said she was going to move to Baltimore, MD because she hated DE. It’s too hard to find a job and she has a nice house with a big back yard. Then it all made sense, I asked her "so what’s HIS name", she said "Mark". Her last boyfriend is filing court papers for their son (my sons brother) and she does not want to be alone. My heart hit the floor! I though she might be finally growing up and she is still the same selfish person I knew when we were married.
I told that there was no way I was going to let her take him to Balt. It would be horrible enough for my Son to have to get to know his 4th dad in his years of life but she wants to take him 100 miles away. I have no car or license to get there to pick him up. I could not depend on her to bring him up here every other weekend. I do not care if she has 50 different boyfriends, that does not bother me. It does bother me that my Son is seeing this and is being adversely effected by it. We got into a huge argument and she said fine then she’ll keep taking me to court, just because I won’t give in and let her have her way. Even if her way is bad for our Son. I told her that if it was so important to go and find love and peace in Balt. then go with out my Son. The sad part was she said no because she did not want to be alone, not that it would be better for him down there or that I was not good enough to keep him. It tell a lot about her priorities. She ended up hanging up on me first.
She does not understand that I would not think she is a bad mom for giving him up for a while, after all she had him for six years and I just want to do my part as his dad. She see it as me trying to take him away from her. No one would think less of her for letting me have him or his grand mom for a while. I owe her time and just want to even things up. She could have some time off to get things worked out in her life in Balt w/Mark or where ever w/who ever. I do not want my Son see his mom fail so many times and not learn from her mistakes.
I have to think of what to do now. I was not expecting this big an issue to come up. I have something in mind but I am not going to write about it here. I told my ex about this blog because I wanted to before she found it on her own. I had a feeling she might know already but I was not sure. She said one of her friends found it when I was featured on the "Whats Your Story" hub page in mid June. I got over 180,000 views and its not that hard to believe someone found it. Her friend saw my Sons pic and called her to tell her about it. When I asked her what she thought, she said she did not see anything bad about her and nothing saw that was not true so she was not mad about it. Thank God!
I feel for her old boyfriend, the other "daddy". He was a great guy, My Son loved him as a dad. He did a lot for and with him. I wish I could talk with him to see if he is ok. He will probably get custody of his Son (my Sons little brother) because he is more responsible and independent than my ex.
Well it’s going to be an interesting time ahead and I hope things do not get too out of control. I have a court order thats stated where and when she is to allow me visits. She better have him there some how. I do not know how much longer she’ll be living there so I hope she gets a new order. I am not giving one inch until she gets a new one. I may be going to file papers again soon anyway to make sure she can’t leave the state with him until a hearing. I hate going to court but I have no other choice…tom g