Just when things settle down, all hell breaks loose! Lets start with Friday. I had to go to court because my ex’s ex filed for emergency custody for his Son (4y.o.) by her. I thought it would be just us two but in total there were seven! I was surprised so many people showed up against her. If that doesn’t blow your mind imagine if her own brother were there. Well, he was and not to support her. The thing I found about whats been happening between them and our sons made me angry. Each of the other "wittinesses" had something to testify about what they saw as a reason why my ex is not a good mom. I am not sure if I want to write what they said but I will ask them to comment or for permission. I did not see these thing but they sadly do not surprise me and only confirm some things I had suspected about her. Her brother wrote a two page letter to give to the court and said he would e-mail me copy or paste it into a comment. I have not read it either. I am not eager to either because it will make me worry about my Son even more. My ex has "problems" but is in denial. Back to the court thing, You would thing the judge would be anxious to hear all these people who took the time to come in person. But for what ever reason the judge never call one single person! Not one! Her ex came out pissed! He said they believed everything she said! So they have a temp order for equal time! How could the court just brush off all us people worried for our kids. ???
By the look on her face when she saw all the people lined up to go against her, including her brother, she turned as white as a ghost. She did not know we were going to be there either. I almost felt sorry for her, almost. She was not happy I was there either but she had plans to get me back. Pay back is a bitc*.
I called my ex last Thursday as "ordered" and told her my plans for sat. We were going to the old trains for a ride and a picnic along the Brandywine River. We were going to take pics to send to his grand mom, my Space and others. Now for the pay back thing…I first must say that the court "order" does say I have to have a ride so she won’t have to drive him to me or I don’t drive myself while license was suspended. Well I had my suspension lifted so that is not an issue any more. Second it says I have to have some where to go once I pick him up, supervision because she said I would try to kidnap him. When I got there she opened the door and said I could not have him because I was alone and did not have "supervision". I had picked him up before when it as convenient for her a few times but now she is mad and it is a different thing. My son my right there and he was visibly upset not to be going to the trains like we planed. I told my Son not to worry that I WAS going to be taking him. I calm told her I was going to have to call a cop and come back, She said I won’t matter. I said "watch". I drove to a phone and called her ex and told him what she was up to and he said he would be the "supervision" and would be rushing to help me.(cool) Then I called 911 and had the cop meet me at a mall near by. I told him my side and he followed me to her apartment, went in to get her side. he told me about the supervision thing and I told him my "superv." is running late. The cop was cool enough to wait 10 minutes. 8 loooong minutes later her ex shows up. The cop goes in to bring out my Son and she flips out to see her ex is my "superv.". She argued with the cop for 15 minutes in her apt, in front of my Son. The cop comes out and tell me that she won’t "allow" him to be the person. SHE will only "allow" my brother in-law to be with me and my Son. So I had to drive off to find a pay phone (she would of course not let me use hers). I found one about 2 mile away and called my bro in-law. He was home and agreed to rush over to get us. I went back to her apt, ex and the patient cop. He showed up and we left. It was about 1:30pm. I was to have him from 11:am and was there at 10:55am waiting to knock on her door for him. We were too late for the trains it left at 1:00pm. Again despite the efforts of many people she won. She knew I’d end up with him, that was not her intention. It was to ruin my day and take up all the time she could. She succeeded! My Son and had to suffer for her savory victory. My Son and I got his bike out and we both rode bike (his w/training wheels) we had fun for the shortened visit. It was a sad ride to drop him off. My ex and her new b.f were standing outside wait when we pulled at 3:27pm. We both got out and he gave me a big hug and kiss good bye. I told him we would do the train thing next time, he said "ok" and ran inside her apt. I left w/out even looking at her.
Monday morning I have to go back to court to file more papers to modify the visitations to reflect my regained driving privileges. The sad part is that in about 6 weeks we will have the useless "Mediation" hearing. Then after not settling thing in there we’ll have to wait another 8 weeks for a real trial to get things fixed. If she filed for the same thing she would have a trial in 1 1/ months, but I always have to wait a long time for my filings. Some one must not like me in the court house I guess. They must know I don’t like them too much.
It helps to know that I am not alone in my opinion of my ex, but it does make me worry about my Son even more…tom g