Back to Court!

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Hi, my Son and I had a great time this year for Halloween. We hung out with his Aunt, Uncle and there two girls (the oldest is 1 day older than my Son). We went through their neighborhood for treats. They had a few "scary houses set up for the kids. One had a grave yard made up in their front yard the kids had to walk through to get candy, but a few were not brave enough to get the candy but I walked up with my Son because he was a bit scared but he was very brave and we got the goodies. He got a big sack of candy by the end of the knight.
His school had another skating party the other night. It was fun too. He is getting god on his roller blades. I plan to get a newer pair because the old ones are starting to not fit. (Too tight). I really suck at remembering to grab the camera. I have missed a bunch of great pics of us doing some fun stuff.(Halloween, skating…)
my ex has also filed a petition to take away my overnight visits. Like always she wrote a bunch of lies, like "I have 5 people living in the apt across the hall and over 12 people in this building altogether. If this is true I hope she brings proof. It will be impossible for her to get proof of a lie. When My Son is with me he rarely sees anyone else who live here accept the kids his own age who visit and play with him when he is with me. There is one woman who lives across the hall and she just had the State come to check out the whole building because she just got custody of her kids and the State approved her to have her kids here. I plan to get a copy of her approval letter as proof that my apt is ok.
I plan to ask the court to punish her for lying, no one should be able to just make up what ever they want and write it in a court document as truth. If the court would slam her to the dirt for it may not happen every time she does not get her way.
The main reason she is so mad is that I take my Son to visit his relatives who have disowned her. She thinks that it is ok to punish them by not allowing our Son to visit them. Well, I think it is flat out wrong and selfish so I take him to visit them all as long as he wants to. My Son has been asking to visit the guy she lived with for 4 years and is his brother’s dad. The guy was like his dad all that time and I do not have any thing bad to say about him, he’s a good guy, but because my ex has beef with him (same exact as me) she flipped out when she heard that I took him to visit him. Even though his I and brother was there! H got to see his brother’s turtles and snake that he heard so much about but was never permitted to check out himself.
Well, it seems like a big circle. Thing go good then as sure as the sun rises, it turns back to a big mess. I hope she looses in court. I do not want to give up our all over night visits. She wants it as- Sat. 10am-8pm Sun 10-am-7pm. I would have to pick him and take back both days. He hates the idea too.
I still have to write the answer to her petition before the 19th. I am considering asking the court to get my Son’s feedback by talking to him to see what he thinks. He is only 7 so I do not know if I should, or even if the would. It would put an end to her being able to lie and get away with it; he would not lie for her if it meant giving up time with his Dad.
Would it be wrong to have the court/judge talk to him, is it? I asked him if he would be afraid to talk to a judge in court and he said it would not bother him at all. I just do not know, what would others do in this situation??
On another note, I downloaded M.S. Visual C# Studio 2005 Express for free from the Microsoft website and it is pretty cool! After only a few days I am able to write windows application that installs and run on the computer. They are not too complex but they are neat and they actually work they way I want. They have videos to teach the basics and I was able to use them to do my own thing. It is like learning a new language (C#) I can even burn my apps to cd and any one can install and run them on there computer. It can be uninstalled from "add/remove programs" in the control panel like all others installed apps/prog. I am only two week into it but am looking forward to learning to use it to do more. Maybe one day even write custom apps for business purposes like inventory or whatever. Who knows?
Many people think of "other languages" as Spanish, French, or Latin, but I think people should look into the others like C#, C++ or J#. Learning one or all of them can be a lot easier and you could get a lot more out of it like maybe a better job with three times the income as your old job. It is not as hard as you might think!
Well that’s about all I have been up to so I guess I write again later….tom g

9 Replies to “Back to Court!”

  1. Hi Tom,
    I thought I stepp by and see how you are doing…..I am so sorry to read these horrible events happening to you and your son. I wish I could help. I don’t know what to say Tom…The only advice I can give you is to listen to your heart. I hope and pray for you that things will work out for you all. Please keep clean and don’t do anything "stupid" out of anger. Do what’s right for you and your son. It’s important for you to stay "cool" and calm and support your son in every way. If people start playing games it’ll always come back to them ( in this case your EX). If you want to e-mail me or talk, you are welcome to my messenger anytime.
    Have a great week.
     
    J.

  2. Hi Tom,
    I thought I stepp by and see how you are doing…..I am so sorry to read these horrible events happening to you and your son. I wish I could help. I don’t know what to say Tom…The only advice I can give you is to listen to your heart. I hope and pray for you that things will work out for you all. Please keep clean and don’t do anything "stupid" out of anger. Do what’s right for you and your son. It’s important for you to stay "cool" and calm and support your son in every way. If people start playing games it’ll always come back to them ( in this case your EX). If you want to e-mail me or talk, you are welcome to my messenger anytime.
    Have a great week.
     
    J.

  3. I definately think that you should have your son talk to the court.  I wished I had come earlier but I will try to help you some more on this.  I swear, it’s like you are dealing with my mother… your ex sounds like a loon!  The only thing is that my mother actually had damming proof of what she was saying as right, both me and my father have tempers and she found a way to use that in court.  It’s as if my father influenced me to do the things that came naturally to me at that age.
     
    And I reccommend you check out my blog now. I recently wrote some things on there that hopefully will help kids like Logan or others. I don’t know his specific situation as well as I do my own, but my hell won’t be as bad to remember if I can prevent another kid from ending up like me.
     
    Here’s to you and your son!
     
     
    Mark

  4. May I recommend to take your documentation, but don’t ask for punishments…Let the judge decide. They like to see calm, cool, collective heads and are not impressed with emotional he said, she said. The court wants facts and proof. Yes…It is so hard to remain calm when falsely accused. However, I learned and often say… "In the end the truth comes to the surface". Been there and done that in the court room. Also…In the end your children will end up where truth abides. I have all my children with me.
    Have a wonderful Holiday Season with loved ones…Greg

  5. Hey…just a suggestion…Get a Guardian Ad Litem for your son…its basically an attorney for your child…I’m not sure how they work, but I know that if you want your son to have a voice in court, thats probably the best way to go…Hope everything works out well for you…
    Hope your holiday weekend was a good one…
     
    ~~SanDee~~

  6. your child should have his say with no parents in the room or with the judge alone he is old enough I was in the 80’s

  7. hi tom hows things going l hope everything is ok with you and your son , your son should av is say in all this take care darls and cum see my site anytime love cuddlygirl xxx

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