A Friend’s Sorrow

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Last night my friend Shannon (28) was over and got a call telling her to contact a police officer about her sister Kerrie (18). I knew this could not be good. I could not have imagined what was to come of it. Shannon called the officer but had to leave a message. She started to call around to relatives but none could be reached. Then she call the hospitals and found one in MD the had her there but they could not release any info & told her to get there.
Shannon just separated from her boyfriend of about 4-5 years.They have 3 kids and he has them with him about 60 miles south of here in Harrington DE. She has no car and the only way she could see her kids is if she finds rides. I have been taking her to get them since she moved up here with her mom. I knew how it hurts not to have a ride and she was getting depressed trying to find rides. She was in a great mood latley and talking about getting her life back together to get her kids more often.
Back to the "call", well, I can bot bring myself to write more about it so click the link to find out what you may already suspect happened: http://www.delawareonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20051103/NEWS/511030353/1006
She is not doing well at all now and I have to get her to seek someone to talk to. I called her relations to let them know that she need them NOW and if they did not want to lose another relative they need to put the B.S aside and be a family. They did not get along because of things in the past. I wish I could absorb some of her pain. I could handle it better than her right now, but I know this is not possible. I can only be there to help her in any that is possible. If anyone want to give her some words of support or how you dealt with similar incidents I will print them out and give them to her. Thanks:(…tom g

12 Replies to “A Friend’s Sorrow”

  1. wow! I am so sorry she lost her sister. I hope she talks to someone too. and yes she needs her family now. they need to come together and let the past go.

  2. They never really leave us… know that your pain is neccessary now, but when the time comes – you will understand what I mean when I say that they never really leave us. The signs and clues are there… be open to them. Don’t LOOK for them because you will not "see" them. Just allow them to happen and simply acknowledge the sign… your sister will communicate with you again when the time is right.I lost my father to cancer in February. He promised my mother he would send blue butterflies to let us know that he was okay… I went to the shore this summer and everywhere I went was a blue butterfly. Some were real, some where just photos or paintings… but they were everywhere.Just pe patient and know that your sister will help you through this pain even if she isn’t physically here. Human bonds are amazing that way… Love beyond life. My condolences for your loss.

  3. My heart goes out to you and your friend. I can’t imagine the pain right now. Please let her know people care.

  4. My heart goes out to you and your friend. I can’t imagine the pain right now. Please let her know people care.

  5. WOW…that is really sad. It is like one of those "freak" accidents that you never expect to happen. I dont know about that but it is scarry none the less. I hope that she gets some help and even though she lost a family member she will be okay. I believe that everything happens for a reason and maybe this is something that will make her stronger or to do something with her life that will end up helping others weather it be with the ATV accidents or something to that effect. It is going to be hard and if she is devistated then she will need to get some kind of help. Some people are able to go through greeving on their own and others need help, but no matter what you have to go t hrough your grieving process, It sucks but it is part of life and the process. Just be there as a friend and make sure that she is okay. Just watch her because people react differently to this kind of thing.

  6. I will keep the family in my prayers. I keep hearing of deaths lately, I mentioned to another blogger that God must have something really special going on that He needs all these people for.I am so sorry for their loss.

  7. I’m so sorry for your friends family. I know first hand how hard it is to loose someone close to you. A tragic end to such a young life. My Heart goes out to your friend Shannon and her Family.

  8. hello Tom, I am sorry to hear about her loss. I have no words of comfort, I do not think there are any. She is in my prayers.

  9. My prayers are with Shannon,,,, and you are truly a GREAT friend.Keep us in touch about her,,,ok!!??!!Love Shnev

  10. Oh my God Tom! That is so very said and so awful! I wish I could offer words but I’ver never been through anything like this. Just be there for her, like you are, and let her talk and rant and scream and cry.Robina

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